Each person has its own idiosyncrasies. They have different ways of behaving, thinking, or feeling which is peculiar to an individual or group, especially an odd or unusual one. For a person to become say, expert in dealing with people, one should accept each one’s uniqueness. No matter what the cost.
Most of the times friendships and relationships are broken by mere pity misunderstandings. One cannot accept the other’s diversities. The other one is looking at oneself in others. As a result, if expectations are stymied frustrations comes in.
The art of getting along with people is really complicated. It would require extra effort to accept a person for what he or she is. It may also demand giving of oneself for the other.
However, no matter how difficult it can be if one would only look up to our Lord Jesus Christ and His teachings which tells us that the greatest love is by giving of one’s life for the sake of our brothers or sisters in Christ, no problem could crop up since everyone will be thinking what is good for the other and not just for oneself.
Some say that dealing with people is truly an art because for you to get along well you have to apply diverse schemes to know the strength and weaknesses of the target person you are interested to be with. You may have the looks but if you do not have that charismatic appeal, you may find it harder to be with others for a longer period of time. They would easily get bored.
Having a sense of humor is also a very good tool in winning friends. Being natural in words, acts or in deeds, plays a big role in gaining true friends than being pretentious. Be yourself and do not feign affection. Honesty and respect for others is the great foundation for every relationship.
How about you? How far have you gone in gaining friends? How long did you stay in a relationship, be it friends or lovers?
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
The Art Of Getting Along With People
Each person has its own idiosyncrasies. They have different ways of behaving, thinking, or feeling which is peculiar to an individual or group, especially an odd or unusual one. For a person to become say, expert in dealing with people, one should accept each one’s uniqueness. No matter what the cost.
Most of the times friendships and relationships are broken by mere pity misunderstandings. One cannot accept the other’s diversities. The other one is looking at oneself in others. As a result, if expectations are stymied frustrations comes in.
The art of getting along with people is really complicated. It would require extra effort to accept a person for what he or she is. It may also demand giving of oneself for the other.
However, no matter how difficult it can be if one would only look up to our Lord Jesus Christ and His teachings which tells us that the greatest love is by giving of one’s life for the sake of our brothers or sisters in Christ, no problem could crop up since everyone will be thinking what is good for the other and not just for oneself.
Some say that dealing with people is truly an art because for you to get along well you have to apply diverse schemes to know the strength and weaknesses of the target person you are interested to be with. You may have the looks but if you do not have that charismatic appeal, you may find it harder to be with others for a longer period of time. They would easily get bored.
Having a sense of humor is also a very good tool in winning friends. Being natural in words, acts or in deeds, plays a big role in gaining true friends than being pretentious. Be yourself and do not feign affection. Honesty and respect for others is the great foundation for every relationship.
How about you? How far have you gone in gaining friends? How long did you stay in a relationship, be it friends or lovers?
Most of the times friendships and relationships are broken by mere pity misunderstandings. One cannot accept the other’s diversities. The other one is looking at oneself in others. As a result, if expectations are stymied frustrations comes in.
The art of getting along with people is really complicated. It would require extra effort to accept a person for what he or she is. It may also demand giving of oneself for the other.
However, no matter how difficult it can be if one would only look up to our Lord Jesus Christ and His teachings which tells us that the greatest love is by giving of one’s life for the sake of our brothers or sisters in Christ, no problem could crop up since everyone will be thinking what is good for the other and not just for oneself.
Some say that dealing with people is truly an art because for you to get along well you have to apply diverse schemes to know the strength and weaknesses of the target person you are interested to be with. You may have the looks but if you do not have that charismatic appeal, you may find it harder to be with others for a longer period of time. They would easily get bored.
Having a sense of humor is also a very good tool in winning friends. Being natural in words, acts or in deeds, plays a big role in gaining true friends than being pretentious. Be yourself and do not feign affection. Honesty and respect for others is the great foundation for every relationship.
How about you? How far have you gone in gaining friends? How long did you stay in a relationship, be it friends or lovers?
Friday, April 11, 2008
How To Cope Up With Frustrations
The result of 2007 Philippine Bar Examinations was released very recently. Out of the more than 5,000 Examinees, only 1,200 plus, made it. For those who passed, I believe their feelings are so great as if they are in Cloud 9. For those who did not make it, mixed emotions can haunt them. Questions will certainly arise as to how come that he did not pass especially those who really gave his all to attain his goal of becoming a lawyer.
One can become so lonely and even spend his solitude in a place where he could be left alone wondering what happened along the way during the waiting period from the last day of the Bar Examinations until the results has been released. Where did he failed and why? To the extent of asking God, why?
Encountering frustrations in life has many lessons to learn. One can arrive at a very wise conclusion, that, God has better plans than what we have. He knows better than we do. Most of the times, we cannot understand His ways. His ways are indeed not our ways. All we have to do is to trust in what God can do for all of us. If we surrender everything to Him, we will not linger on our isolation. We have to move on and look for His will.
Failing the Bar, is not the end but a beginning of a new dimension in a Bar flanker’s life. It should serve as a challenge and not a loss. There is much better life than lingering on one’s frustrations. One has just to look around him, consider others and not focus on one’s self.
Life on earth is temporal and everything is merely vanities. They are just pride of life. It is really very hard to accept one’s failure if one is focusing on what other people might say and think. It is just pride and nothing else. Fear of failing is the most pusillanimous or cowardly act. Also, pride is the greatest source of sins which is the reason why the first man and woman failed God.
Coping up with frustrations and standing still, focusing onwards to a goal of reaching the most important things in our lives, which is by looking for God’s approval until that day when we will be facing Him can certainly help one to move on.
Rather than feeling frustrated, looking gloomy because of so many failures, all we have to do is smile and think of that day when God will come face to face and ask us, how did you spend your life and how have you loved? Where you able to save other people by showing others that the most important thing in ones life is by following all the teachings of our Lord Jesus and loving God with whole of our minds, with whole of our hearts and with whole of our souls.
What about you, how did you cope up with your frustrations? Or, have experienced being frustrated?
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One can become so lonely and even spend his solitude in a place where he could be left alone wondering what happened along the way during the waiting period from the last day of the Bar Examinations until the results has been released. Where did he failed and why? To the extent of asking God, why?
Encountering frustrations in life has many lessons to learn. One can arrive at a very wise conclusion, that, God has better plans than what we have. He knows better than we do. Most of the times, we cannot understand His ways. His ways are indeed not our ways. All we have to do is to trust in what God can do for all of us. If we surrender everything to Him, we will not linger on our isolation. We have to move on and look for His will.
Failing the Bar, is not the end but a beginning of a new dimension in a Bar flanker’s life. It should serve as a challenge and not a loss. There is much better life than lingering on one’s frustrations. One has just to look around him, consider others and not focus on one’s self.
Life on earth is temporal and everything is merely vanities. They are just pride of life. It is really very hard to accept one’s failure if one is focusing on what other people might say and think. It is just pride and nothing else. Fear of failing is the most pusillanimous or cowardly act. Also, pride is the greatest source of sins which is the reason why the first man and woman failed God.
Coping up with frustrations and standing still, focusing onwards to a goal of reaching the most important things in our lives, which is by looking for God’s approval until that day when we will be facing Him can certainly help one to move on.
Rather than feeling frustrated, looking gloomy because of so many failures, all we have to do is smile and think of that day when God will come face to face and ask us, how did you spend your life and how have you loved? Where you able to save other people by showing others that the most important thing in ones life is by following all the teachings of our Lord Jesus and loving God with whole of our minds, with whole of our hearts and with whole of our souls.
What about you, how did you cope up with your frustrations? Or, have experienced being frustrated?
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